Madison was a beautiful baby and a joy to raise as a young child. When she was about 10, her parents noticed major changes in her behavior. Overwhelmed, they sought professional help.
Madison was diagnosed with Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD), Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), and anxiety. She began to take medication and attend weekly meetings with psychologists. Still, Madison seemed to get worse. Her parents were exhausted and heartbroken as they fought to manage her episodes.
Madison stayed — twice — at the child psychiatric ward of a local hospital. Then she spent nine months in Washington State’s Children’s Long-term Inpatient Program (CLIP). This experience helped Madison’s parents learn what worked for her. They attended every training program offered by the state and learned how to respond appropriately to behaviors and to implement a system of consistent, automatic application of consequences (both costs and privileges). These practices ultimately turned Madison’s life around.
Today Madison is 19 and working toward a medical professional degree. During the winters, she is an instructor at the Mount Spokane Ski and Snowboard Park. Her parents smile when they hear her talk about the ‘difficult’ children she teaches!
What worked for Madison? A system comprising healthy parental responses to problem behavior and consistent, automatic application of consequences. Mark Hawley — Madison’s dad — took these principles and created ChildBe to help other families find the peace that the Hawley family now experiences.
In 2018, the ChildBe team took on Janet Spaulding (LMFT and behavioral clinician) and Elisabeth Hartman, who has degrees in both psychology and education. Their contributions led to a relaunch of the program that now offers additional tools to families, including target behaviors, a network of partner therapists, integration with the ACT Matrix Model, an online support community, and the ParentBe coaching system.